On Friday, my baby turned 6. No longer a baby, not yet a teenager, but a real
little big boy.
On Thursday night I let Alex stay up to watch the first period of the Montreal game (Go Habs Go!) in my bed. He wanted to read stories and fall asleep in there too. Before he fell he said something adorable. I told him today he is going to asleep a 5 year old, but will wake up as a 6 year old. He replied that he didn’t want me to ever say that again. Followed by that he wanted to sleep all night in my bed because it was a very special day. Aww! Of course mean mommy I am, I moved him before I went to sleep. He takes up too much space!
So Alex woke up bright and early – wanting to get an early start on being 6 I guess! I really shouldn’t complain – 6:30 isn’t too bad considering how early I know many of my friends get woken up at. Alex got a pair of Hulk Gloves for his morning present – and after he got home from the sitters, he got a new bike. We were afraid that he wouldn’t ride it because it was so much larger than his old one. But he hopped on it and would not get off! It was a huge success.
That night we had some Chinese food (no full Korean restaurant in town) and the 3 of us just hung out.
Saturday was party day. Crazy me planned 2 parties … again … for the same day – morning party for the kids and a dinner party for family. I’m pretty sure after last year I said never again… sadly I didn’t listen to myself. But it was all good. The kid’s party was Angry Birds themed – a perfect party theme for little boys. We let Alex invite 7 of his friends – mainly kids from the neighbourhood, but one good buddy from school came. We had an Angry Birds box wall with balloon pigs, and red and blue balls for the birds. I had full intentions of painting bird faces on the balls, but I realized that I’m not that artistic. The kids had a BLAST! I highly recommend trying it out – but in the backyard if possible. It was cold and wet outside on Saturday so for us the basement was the firing range.
(I love seeing the kids be so silly in the background!)
There was pizza and ice cream cake for lunch – again – huge hit.
After all the boys left we got ready for party #2 – the family party. Again – a good time – and he got spoiled! Besides his bike – I think this helmet was his favourite gift.
Believe me – while you can’t tell from the above picture – Alex loves being 6.
It’s hard to believe that Spring is here after the winter that would never end. It was a very long… cold… winter. And even today -the 7th of May, I was wearing a wool coat and scarf. But I’m finally calling it spring. There is no more snow on the ground, flowers are popping up out of the ground, trees are budding and baseball season is about to begin.
So much has happened since my last post. We celebrated Alex being home with us for 5 years in February, Alex finished his first year of hockey (which he rocked by the way – 10 goals in his final game!), and Alex turned 6 just last week. Here are a few photo highlights.
Yes – I think this was Spring.
A good collection of loot from the Easter Egg Hunt
Cool Easter Egg Shades
I’m 6 and riding a cool new big boy bike!
Back in mid September, we receive a note from the before / after school program that Alex attends on his school days (he is still every other day) that they wanted the children to bring in family photos for a family tree that they were going to be working on. So of course – my head started spinning. As an adoptive parent, you know the issue of family lineage will come up and it can be difficult to provide answers – especially in international adoption. So I tried to spark up a conversation with Alex about where his birth family came from – but like he does with most conversations that do not revolve around hockey or superheros, he decided to ignore me. He knows he was born in South Korea, and will tell you that if he is asked. Once in a blue moon he may ask where his foster mom lives or maybe ask something about his birth mother or father – but for the most party, he doesn’t seem to want to talk about it yet, at least not when we initiate the conversation.
So back to the family tree issue at the school. I posted my concerns about it on Facebook – especially since i was surprised to have this come up in Senior Kindergarten – I expected I had at least until grade 1 or 2 to prepare Alex (and myself!). My concern was not that there may be questions, but it was more that with Alex’s speech being delayed, and the fact that he can be shy in front of groups, he may be more hesitant about answering any questions his classmates may have.
I ended up giving our family picture to his before school program coordinator, and mentioned to her that Alex may not be able to answer questions that his classmates may have and that I did not expect him to if he wasn’t comfortable with it. I did mention that he was born in South Korea in case that question came up, but I felt it was best to leave things more vague.
The coordinator was very supportive. I guess the reason for the Family Tree “assignment” was that some kids were feeling sad because they missed their moms and dads since many were at school for the first time (and some arrive as early at 7am). So in reality, the family tree is just a tree on the wall with the pictures of the families stuck to it and I really didn’t have to worry about much.
As an aside… when I was picking Alex up from school one day, I thought I recognized one of the little boys who he had been playing with, but I couldn’t place him. When we went outside I saw a lady getting out of her car – and it clicked. I’m not going to say her name… but I may have mentioned her in this post. She had adopted him from Russia (I believe – thank you to the lady at the Thai food restaurant who was filling me in on some local gossip) and he looks very Asian. So I told Alex that the boy he had been playing with was adopted too. He didn’t say much… but then asked about his friend “D” who is also Korean – he asked where Dylan was adopted from. I told him he wasn’t adopted but that he was born in Canada and lives with his birth mommy and daddy. He seemed confused and said, “but Dylan has black hair like me”. It broke my heart a bit and also made me chuckle at he same time. I guess everyone he knows that is adopted has been adopted from Russia or Korea, and the Russian children all have dark hair and have a slight Asian look to them. So I reminded him that his friend “K” in his class, who is blond and blue eyes was adopted and she doesn’t have black hair. I don’t know if that set him straight or confused him more.
Good question – I feel at times like I am so out of the blogging world, but then I get inspired for a post or two, and then… well, life takes hold. I never realized how busy I would find it being a working mom of a 5 year old – there is very little spare time to do much.
I thought I would take a moment to share some random facts of what is happening in our lives – just so I don’t forget for when I get caught up in scrapbooking!
- I had my hair chopped my hair off! It feels so good to have a style again – longer hair just isn’t for me.
- At work, we did a massive reorganization of our main floor – we did a huge weed of unused non fiction, rearranged shelving and moved collections. It took the better part of a weekend when the library was closed and was a lot of work – but it looks pretty darn good.
- I just finished reading “Crazy Rich Asians” by Kevin Kwan – very fun novel playing up the stereotypes of affluent Asians in Singapore. Now I’m onto “Bridget Jones: Mad About the Boy” by Helen Fielding.
- He has started hockey! He is in Tyke – also known as Timbits (oh how Canadian!). Matt is coaching and I guess every time he asks the team if they have any questions, Alex will put up his hand and say “Let’s Play Hockey!”
- He is coming out of his shell for sure. Often he will ask our neighbours if they know his mom or dad, or what they are doing – something he would never have done a few months ago.
- Alex is in a big “Who made this” phase – asking that question about everything from cars to the moon to his skin.
- Speech is still ongoing – but now he is getting help again in school – so hoping things start to progress more.
- He has been accepted into the Vice Principal’s pool! That means if there is an opening for a VP in his board, he may be called into that position. He has worked very hard for this – I’m very proud.
- Hunting and Fishing season is back so Matt is back to hunting and gathering for our family 🙂
- Has a problem with his eye right now… poor guy.
It’s hard to believe that our little boy is now in his second year of school! In Ontario there is now Junior and Senior Kindergarten – Alex is now an SK kid. Alex still has the teacher as last year which is nice – I think he will find comfort with the familiarity – and hopefully talk in class this year! He is still full day every other day this year – going to a babysitters on his non school days. This year he will also be in the Before and After School program to allow us to get to work on time and not rush to pick him up. He has lots of friends there and he seems to be really enjoying it.
Now, I did something I never thought I would do – I sent Alex to school on the WRONG day!! The Kindergartners have staggered start dates… and I went by one calendar which showed his class starting on Wednesday… not the letter sent back in June with his official start date of Friday… oops! A few tears were shed – but nothing long lasting. So we have two sets of first day of school pics.
2 weeks ago Alex had his belly button surgery (has it already been that long?!) I would have to say that Alex was a little hesitant about the whole process – and really, who could blame him?! It’s a big deal to go into the hospital and have surgery – regardless of the severity of the procedure. To prepare him, we read a few books about going to the hospital before hand – and I must admit – Curious George Goes to the Hospital is NOT the best book choice I have ever made… In the story, the man in the yellow hat leaves George at the hospital overnight as they used to do – as a result, Alex was convinced we were just going to leave him there for a few days… sigh. (note to self – preread this sort of book before hand…) What we did find very beneficial was watching a slideshow on our hospital website designed for kids who are going in for surgery. The presentation was done by a very good friend of mine – so Alex recognized her daughter and kept looking for her at the hospital!
Alex was a trooper. While we waited for him to have his procedure we read books and he played on the ipad. When the nurses were finally ready, we kissed him goodbye, and they took his hand and he walked down the hall with them – talking about Curious George. He didn’t look back once.
The procedure and the time before we were allowed back to see him took longer than I expected, but really it was just 2 hours. After I went to see him in the post opp, and while he was groggy, he was his normal self. By the time we left – he was back to normal! He had to take it easy for the rest of the day, but by 9am Saturday, he was begging to go outside and ride his bike.
I wish I bounced back that easily!
yes… you are seeing this correctly. raw corn on a hot dog bun. love him.
First a little history….
When Alex was still in Korea, we received an update from our agency that Alex had an irritated belly button and had gone to the doctor. They sent us a few updated pictures then – and one showing a reddish bellybutton. While we were concerned, we knew he was being well cared for. After Alex came home to Canada and we took him to our family doctor, we were told that his “proud flesh” had never healed so the doctor put on some silver nitrate which normally seals off the belly button. We did this 3 times. But it never healed!
For the most part the redness (which looks a bit like the red inside your mouth) wasn’t causing any issues – occasionally it would be a little yucky… and bleed. Now that Alex is able to communicate more, he has been telling us it sometimes hurts. And he is always fingering his belly area… So… at his 5 year checkup, I asked again about his belly button. The doctor wasn’t sure what the best move would be, so he referred us to a surgeon.
Matt took Alex to the surgeon for his first appointment, so I am not 100% sure what was said – but the surgeon mentioned before she decided upon a course of action, she wanted an ultrasound. I guess there is a sort of connection between the belly button and your bladder and she wanted to ensure that there was no mass on it. When we went for the ultrasound – Alex wasn’t able to eat or drink anything… and his appointment was for 10:45… not an easy time as any parent can imagine. He cried and whined for food and drink the whole time there. Then the appointment lasted an hour. First an ultrasound tech, then the supervisor, then he left, then he came back, then he left, and came back again. So as you can imagine, I was a little concerned.
Two week later I took Alex back for a follow up. Turns out it is a tumor – but not any sort of worrisome tumor – completely benign. It is a small mass of blood vessels inside his belly button – and when it gets rubbed too much, some blood vessels can bleed… hence his discomfort and discharge. It does not continue through to that connection with his bladder which is a relief.
The solution is to have a short surgical procedure where they will put him under and remove the mass. Many parents wait until the child is closer to 10 years old, but since Alex will be playing hockey this year, we don’t want his equipment rubbing on it and causing him any distress. No dates set yet – but hopefully in the next couple of months.
So there it is! That’s where we are with the belly button saga. Will keep everyone up to date!
This little pirate is!
I think Alex had a pretty sweet birthday – We had McDonalds for dinner – his selection, he got a playmobile police station and a Darth Vader light saber from us – and we spent the evening biking around the neighbourhood and putting together his new toys. [as a side note – I recommend putting together playmobile BEFORE – because there are zillions of pieces!]
On Saturday we through a pirate bash for our boy. The kids got to dress up, walk the plank, go for a treasure hunt, and play swords. A word of caution moms – foam swords hurt! For desert – pirate cake pops!! They were very tasty!
An hour after the 8 little pirates jumped ship, we had 23 family members come over for a birthday bbq. Yes – we were all a little tired after it all – but so worth it.
After all – you only turn 5 once right?!