a sad day

On Friday we had a very sad day for our family.  It was Alex’s last day at his babysitters. Megan had decided that she was quitting childcare as of the end of June, so we began searching for a new sitter – and found one we wanted, but she had a oppening now, no guarantees in June. So what could we do? We had to switch now.

When we arrived Friday morning, Megan, her daughters and a couple of the other kids she watches were there, and surprised us with a gift for Alex (police car, police badge, and an ATV) and a cute card.  Alex knew something was up and did not want me to leave.  He has not done that in ages!  We had told him that it was his last day at Megan’s, and had introduced him to Florence, but I didn’t expect him to not want me to go.

I had the day off and did a lot of running around while Alex got to play with all the other kids.  When I picked up Alex in the afternoon, I knew it was going to be a tough time.  I had Alex give Megan a bouquet of flowers and a card and then give all the kids a big hug.  I was pretty much a mess by that point.  Because if you think of it, Megan actually got to spend most of the day with Alex, 5 days a week, for almost two years. He called her Mamma for the longest time (he is still pretty slow in his speech). So really, she was another mommy to him. In his short 3 years, Alex has lost his birth mother, two foster moms (Alex had two different FMs in Seoul), and now Megan. 

I know Florence is going to be a good caregiver for Alex. She is a lot older than Megan, more of a grandmother figure.  She also just lives down the street from Matt’s parents so that is going to be convenient if we are in a pinch for pickups.  Also Flo has a number of kids going to her that we either know or know the parents of which is really reassuring.  It’s just going to be a bit of an adjustment period in the next couple of weeks… let’s hope it isn’t a tough one (for Alex or for me).


We have started looking into childcare for Alex when I return to work.  So far I’ve got us on the waiting list for a daycare right behind my house, which is actually attached to the school Matt works at, and I have gotten a few babysitters names. 

We are thinking the daycare because of the location and convenience – but the downsides are that we will have to pay during the summer even though Matt is home, and it is quite expensive.  Yesterday Alex and I got a tour of the site and it looks pretty good – there is one caregiver per 3-4 kids, crafts, playtime, and walks occur daily, and meals are all made at the daycare and the menu seems quite good.  The babysitter idea is also promising because we could get one that deals only with teachers children and then we don’t have to worry about paying during the the summers, March break etc., it is more reasonably priced, but there tends to be more children per caregiver and the locations are not as convenient. 

Does anyone have any advice on the subject they could share?