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Today it finally came!  Our approval from Citizenship and Immigration Canada!  They have now sent on our application details to the Canadian Embassy Visa Office in Korea!!  We now have a Client # which I will be sending to Children’s Bridge so they can apply for a Letter of No Objection and Approval from the MCYS – so long as they first approve our home study… still waiting on that one.   

One more step done… how many more to go??

Digipalooza & Cleveland

We had a pretty good time away in Cleveland.  As I previously mentioned, the reason for the trip to Cleveland was Digipalooza.  Digipalooza is a conference celebrating Overdrive’s services.  Overdrive is a company that provides services that your public / state / provincial library might participate in – it provides e-audiobooks that you can download to your computer and then transfer to a MP3 player or burn to a cd.  The exciting news from the conference is the new ability to transfer audio books to an iPod or Mac (coming soon – only a handful of libraries have this set up now).  As a side note, at least at our library you can download learn Korean audiobooks – so we will start learning Korean this fall – perhaps a good task while painting the nursery.

Digital Bookmobile

Digital Bookmobile

I’m glad Matt came with me to the conference – he kept me sane in the car – and I was very good – I only freaked out on the Burlington Bridge and on the Niagara Bridge.  In Cleveland we were able to get last minute tickets to go see the Foo Fighters – they rocked the Q!! If you are a fan and have a chance to see them Go!!  $27 and great seats! 

Foo Fighters

Foo Fighters

We went to see the Twins vs. the Indians – Twins won – Go Justin Morneau!  It was a perfect night – not too hot, and we had seats in the shade which was nice. 

Matt and I at Progress Field

Matt and I at Progress Field

Unfortunately we did not get to go to the House of Blues or the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame due to the food poisoning (see below).  We realized that downtown Cleveland had a lot of pavement.  We were not able to find any real shopping streets – just lots of closed stores.  I think the big box stores must have really demo’d the downtown.  4th Street was really cool – enjoyed the Mexican restaurant (and happy hour) there. 

Good things about the trip:
Highways in New York State and Ohio were great
Cheap beer
Happy Hour
Good food
Burger King
Cheaper gas – if you can believe it!

Bad things about the trip:
Construction in Pensylvania and Michigan
Getting lost in Detroit
Getting food poisoning from the Harry Buffalo
Could not find the Outlet Malls in Port Huron, and as a result missed the Duty Free shop.

I hope to go again in 2 years – next time I will ensure that I get to the Rock!

Bumper Pads

I’m back from Digipalooza, the conference was great and I will post more about the trip once I upload pictures from my camera.

Ok, so bumper pads.  As I mentioned in a previous post I was wondering if bumper pads were safe and necessary for a crib.  I have surveyed my friends and here are the results:

“used them with both the girls and never had a problem, they secure well to the crib and would be very difficult for the baby to suffocate itself. Also, I think it is good so they don’t bump their head against the side of the crib rails.”

“We got a bedding set that included them and we never used them – too many cons and I was terrified of SIDS. We debated putting them on recently as “baby” had fallen over (while jumping in his bed!) and hit his head, but then a friend pointed out that he could use them to step up and possibly fall over the edge….so no, I don’t think they’re a good idea.”

“Didn’t use them – heard some bad stories about very little kids getting caught up in them and reduced air flow. I didn’t look into it – just didn’t just them.”

I used them in the very beginning.  At around 5 months “baby” started to roll a bit and I was afraid that “baby” would roll into one and suffocate as “baby” only knows how to roll one way.  I will probably put them in again when “baby” can move around independently.  Plus, they make the crib look so much more beautiful!

“We used bumper pads for a little while but I found them annoying and the cat kept trying to play with the strings…I think they really are just decorative and I don’t think they provide actual safety. I could see how they could be dangerous, I remember waking up one morning and “baby’s” pudgy little face was pressed up to the bars of the crib, facing me like “baby” had been awake and watching me and I thought A/awww how cute and B/if he’d just rolled over in his sleep like that I’m sure glad I didn’t have bumper pads on the crib. We haven’t got any for this baby and come to think of it, most of the people I know who’ve recently don’t seem to have any on their cribs…”

“I think that it depends on the age of the child.  If he/she is really young and can’t move very well…I wouldn’t use them.  We started using them after 6 or 8 months when baby was more mobile-they also help to keep the soothers in!  Ha ha!  The health unit does not promote their use but as I said, if the baby can move around then they should be okay.  We have our Angel Care monitor that goes off if “baby” stops moving or breathing!”

“We started using bumper pads when “baby” started sitting up and moving around the crib because he kept hitting his head.  I didn’t use them when “baby” was young because i read stuff about air flow and SIDS but I found them necessary when “baby” started hitting his head, arms, legs etc.  It would wake him up.”

“I think bumper pads are another marketing ploy to make you spend money!! They have a very limited time when they are safe to use and are barely worth it.
You shouldn’t use them until the little one is rolling and able to lift their head (so they don’t smother), and then you need to remove them once the little one starts to stand so that they can’t use them to step up and fall out of the crib. I really think you only safely get a couple of months use out of them.”

So there it is… seems in my small survey the results were close – but most people didn’t use them, or don’t feel that they are useful for long periods of time.  I’m wanting to sew my own baby bedding, and it would really help reduce the amount of work I need to do… Any other thoughts readers?

AdopTalk

I was looking into registering for AdopTalk – a 2 day adoption seminar on adoption run through our agency (kinda like PRIDE, but more focused on adoption and travel) – but the closest session is in October in Toronto.  And anyone who knows me, knows I am a paranoid psycho passenger when driving on the 401 – I’m sure other drivers are out to hit us… I’m working on it…           So I enquired about a session closer to Kitchener or London (there was one in London this past spring).  Just checked my e-mail – there might be one this Spring – but… because of our anticipated travel / referral time line we really should do the GTA training this Fall!!  So… to me that sounds like they think we will be getting our baby in Spring 2009!  That is kinda what I was thinking… but it is nice hearing it from our agency.

So off to Cleveland tomorrow – wish me luck on the highways!  Or should I say wish Matt luck…

Waiting…

They aren’t kidding when you hear that the waiting in adoption is the hardest part.  Realistically we have flown through this process so far – homestudy and PRIDE within just over a month, immigration work sent away… but now is the wait. 

  • We are hoping to hear from the MCYS soon about – when our Homestudy was submitted, it was taking 6 weeks for things to be processed – we are at 4.5 weeks.  
  • The immigration paperwork takes about 3 weeks to process- we are at just over 1.  From CIC, we need a Client Number and ID. 
  • Once that has been received, Children’s Bridge can apply from MCYS for a Letter of No Objection and Approval for a proposed placement.  That takes about 2 weeks. 
  • After that… our package is sent to South Korea.  From there, the referral time period has been about 6-8 months… (although I hear that referrals have been made within 4 months…)
  • Once a referral is received, travel time is 8-14 weeks

So – waiting.

How do you fill the time?  There has been some discussion on this topic on one of the Children’s Bridge message board.  Some ideas posted include:

  • prepare a nursery (I’ve been polling my friends on the practicality / safety of bumper pads)
  • learn conversational Korean
  • Try some Korean recipes / restaurants
  • General household maintenance
  • Attend AdopTalk
  • Read adoption books
  • Read parenting books

Does anyone else have any suggestions?  We still have a long wait a head of us…

Adoption Print

This past Valentines Day I bought a beautiful adoption print from a seller on etsy.  Etsy is a online store for people selling hand crafted items.

According to Chinese folklore, when a child is born they are connected by an invisible red thread to all who will care about them. As the child grows, the thread becomes shorter, drawing them ever closer to loved ones.

Although the picture is about Chinese folklore, I feel that it relates to all adoptions.  We have placed it on a wall in our bedroom to remind us that the thread is getting shorter every day.

You can buy one too if you are interested…

Cleveland anyone?

Next week Matt and I will be heading to Cleveland Ohio for a few days.  I will be attending Digipalooza – an electronic audio book conference – yes I am a nerd.  Anyhow – just wondering if there is anyone reading this who has been to Cleveland or lives in Cleveland that could suggest some restaurants.  We have tickets to a ball game on Saturday, and will be going to the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame on Sunday, but we need some dinner suggestions.  Thanks!

Weekend at the Cottage

Yesterday we got back from 4 days at Matt’s parent’s cottage on Mason Lake, our dog’s namesake.  It was a little different this time – we took Matt’s 2 nephews up with us – not used to that!  But they were greate.  Matt’s parent’s were also there so it was the 6 of us in total.  We had lots of fun – the weather was warm, on Saturday it was super windy, and the bugs were out in full force – mosquitoes, black flies, and deer flies – and I have the bug bites to prove it!  Luckily the bears that had been spotted through the week were hiding… So I thought I would post a few pictures of our time away! 

Mason loves going for boat rides

Mason loves going for boat rides

Matt having fun in the canoe - dont worry we were being safe!

Matt having fun in the canoe - don't worry we were being safe!

 

More Canoe Fun!  A rare shot of me in the water...

More Canoe Fun! A rare shot of me in the water...

Another couple of books…

Over the weekend I was away at the cottage and found time to finally finish some books I’ve been reading.  One that was referred to me by a friend was called Digging to America by Anne Tyler.  Digging to America was actually about 2 women who meet each other at the airport – picking up their daughters from South Korea!!  The book then details how the families evolved and intertwined. Two things I found really interesting.  One was that one family instilled more Korean culture on their daughter, while the other let the child really just be herself – and the differences between the girls was quite something.  Also the difference between the children coming home after a Korean adoption and a Chinese adoption.  Unfortunately the Chinese daughter in the book was a little behind and was not bonding as well as the Korean daughter.  I think it is a nice read for anyone, especially for those who have already or are in the process of adopting from South Korea.

The second book I finished was Fearless Fourteen by Janet Evanovich – I’m a huge fan.  Sadly while I did enjoy book 14, I wasn’t too happy in that the questions left from 13 were not answered – ie marriage?  Ranger?  Still a fun summer book!