Happy Mother’s Day

Today was the first Mother’s Day I felt I could celebrate.  For over 4 years Mother’s Day has been a very painful day for me – just another reminder that yet again, I am still not a mother.  I do have a dog, who does provide lots of love and kisses, but for those who know how I feel, it is just not quite the same.

This year however I know that there is a wonderful woman out there who is pregnant, and one day will be giving me the most wonderful gift.  That gives me hope.

This morning my wonderful husband gave me a Mother’s Day card – to the Mommy-to-be, and included me in the pampering this evening when we had our mothers over for dinner.  He brought us drinks, appetizers, dinner, desert, after dinner drinks – he is just an absolute sweetie. 

By this time next year, I’m hoping we have a little one to celebrate with!

Happy Mother’s Day to all you mothers, and to all the Mommies-to-be!!

PRIDE Training

Yesterday we started PRIDE training.  PRIDE stands for Parenting Resources for Information, Development and Education.  Starting January 1, 2008, everyone in Ontario who wants to foster or adopt a child must attend PRIDE training, for the bargin price of $1400…  But through this training, it is expected that prospective parents will have a better understanding of all the issues that might arise in adopting / fostering a child.  Topics include:

Session One: Connecting with PRIDE
Session Two: Teamwork towards permanency
Session Three: Meeting developmental needs: Attachment
Session Four: Meeting developmental needs: Loss
Session Five: Strengthening family relationships
Session Six: Meeting developmental needs: Discipline
Session Seven: Continuing family relationships
Session Eight: Planning for change
Session Nine: Making an informed decision: Taking PRIDE.

Yesterday’s training ran from 8:30am – 4:30pm… a very long day.  It was interesting however – Matt and I have been focused on adopting internationally and know all that that entails, however yesterday we learned more about the fostering and adopting domestically process – covered in Session One.  We also covered sessions 2 and 3.  Permanency went over how important it is that the child have a permanent home and stability.  Attachment went over some of the issues that arises when you are adopting internationally, specifically from an orphanage, and also for foster situations since most of those children have had abuse of some sorts in their lives. Children in orphanages often have had very little contact with an adult, with little time out of a crib.  And if early in life a child is not given love and affection, often when put into a loving environment, a they are unable to reciprocate.  Most will eventually learn to show affection, but some do not – they have lost emotion. 

The end of the session was an overview of the homestudy process.  We technically did not have to stay since we are a good way through the process, but I had a question about the home visit that I wanted to ask – Matt was not impressed, it added 30 minutes to the day.  I wanted to know how far we had to go in baby proofing the house – and while each practitioner is different, they assured me we do not need to add child proof door knob handles etc.  We do however need a family fire evacuation plan, and a flashlight that works…